Time Out is good. For parents!

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I spent this past weekend mostly by myself and in many hours of silence. I also slept more than I usually do. I listened to or watched hours of my favorites speakers; I walked for hours on the beach; I meditated; I gave myself the chance to re-connect with my inner world.
Just like our children, we end up feeling off-track, overwhelmed, tired, confused, dissatisfied, unhappy,  angry… fill in the blanks…the list is endless.  What I am inviting all of us- grown-ups- to (re)consider is committing to create “time -out” for ourselves on a regular basis. How about 30 minutes a week, to begin with? It doesn’t have to be a full weekend or a full day.  That would be too scary, wouldn’t it? Or even a reason to feel guilty.
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Mary Hartzell, M.Ed. wrote the acclaimed Parenting from the Inside Out ( 2004; re-publised in 2014) and sub-titled it: How a Deeper Self- Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive. Key word here: self-understanding . There is a direct and scientifically proven correlation between our own level of self- understanding and self- awareness about our inner world ( childhood experiences, belief systems, values, default/unconscious emotional reactions, personal boundaries, life purpose and meaning) and our ability to parent mindfully, consciously and in a connected way.
So: because I know that  all of you who are reading this post, will take 30 minutes this week to be in silence with yourself :-),  here are 11 ( eleven) questions that you can reflect on with gentleness and an open heart, from a place of wonder and self-discovery ( stay open and non-judgemental of the messages you will be receiving from your Higher Self while you are in silence): 

  1. Am I happy?
  2. When do I love myself ?
  3. When do I not love myself?
  4. Who am I right here and now?
  5. Who do I want to become?
  6. What are my childhood experiences that are most painful to me?
  7. How can I heal my past wounds?
  8. Am I willing to forgive myself and others?
  9. What am I grateful for right now?
  10. How can I help others ?
  11. How can I become the best version of myself in all relationships that I have?

(…) making sense of your life is the best gift you can give your child, or yourself.  
Daniel Siegel & Mary Hartzell, Parenting from the Inside Out 

I hope this invitation resonates with you, my dear reader, parent and grown-up. Let me know how it worked for you. Yours in gratitude,

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